I found myself too often letting others define my happiness….

Earlier this year, I realized that if someone I knew passed me by in the hallway and greeted me with a “hello” it would instantly put a smile on my face. I soon realized even more importantly it had a deeper effect on me than I thought. It would also make me feel appreciated and valued on the inside. That’s just it. My value does not come from someone else. My value is rooted in God alone. I am not saying there is anything wrong with letting this action brighten up your day a little, but it shouldn’t be the only reason you’re happy for that day.

On the other hand, if someone I knew would not initiate a quick hello or instead completely walk by without addressing me at all (when we are friends) my mood would crash completely to the ground. I was shocked when I had realized what a damper it had put on my day. The day could have been going well but that one missed “hello” would be enough to turn it into not such a good day after all.  

I realized that you can not let other people hold your happiness on your day to day life. Happiness is such an important value to attain.

“Happiness is a choice” -Shay Carl Butler (from the Shaytards on YouTube)

If you always depend on others to provide you with your joy you will never find true happiness, because no one is perfect all of the time. No one will be able to ever completely satisfy all of your needs, except God.

Just because that one person didn’t say hi to you that one day in the hall or someone didn’t see you pass by THAT IS OK. You have to not allow your feelings to be swayed so easily by other people’s behaviors, decisions, and actions. You hold the full right to how you want to let others affect you and whether or not that should change your mood is up to you, not them.

“No one can make you feel inferior without your consent” – Eleanor Roosevelt (quoted from Princess Diaries the movie)

You need to know who you are on the inside is pretty darn special and no one can ever take that away from you, and don’t let them. After all YOU decide how you feel, not anyone else.

I have learned that real internal happiness comes from God and it starts from within. I know that God has brought certain people into my life for a reason and even though they are not perfect, just like myself, they still have impacted me. I have complete faith in His plan for my life and I know that even when I may not understand why things happen now, He does. I can put my trust in Him so I no longer have to worry or doubt what is going on in my busy life because God has got this all in control. 

“In Christ alone, my hope is found. He is my light, my strength, my song.” (In Christ Alone written by Keith Getty & Stuart Townend)

Thank you so much for reading my #FindingYouSeries throughout the month of February!  Let me know if you would like me to continue this series into the year. Make sure to subscribe to know when I post next!


Jasmine Grace