You were not made to be like them, you were made to be YOU.
I casually scroll through Instagram a lot. That’s where it starts. When all of the sudden I stop scrolling and start to look at one photo. You know that one with the perfect lighting, flawless face, and an overall beautiful image of someone else. Then you go to their profile just to find dozens of similar photos of more flawless looking people at stunning places that all seem to effortlessly fit into an aesthetic across their feed, the theme.
I think to myself, “I wish that was me eating that donut looking gorgeous” or “wearing that prom dress” or “standing along the shore at the beach”. But it’s not me.
Have you ever stopped following those people just because you couldn’t stop comparing yourself to their seemingly perfect account?
As I have faced these struggles myself and began questioning my own image I have been taught and have come to realize a few key lessons that are crucial to know in order to stop comparing yourself to others.
First, I have learned to compliment instead of compare. When I see a flawless photo, I now say to myself out loud “she has pretty hair and I love her top”. It is a beneficial way to give the complement and not to hold it in as a negative remark against you. I have also been told that when you are in-person feel free to tell the girl next to you that you really like her necklace and ask where she got it from. That way instead of holding it in, you are giving a compliment to someone. Plus, you’ve also got some more fashion knowledge too! It’s a win-win!
Second, I have also learned to not go to Instagram, or other social media accounts, when I am feeling down and to instead do something that makes me feel good and uses my skills and abilities for better. Personally, I enjoy doing something creative or dancing to music.
Finally, I have learned to not even let Instagram mess with my brain when it comes to self image and beauty. Let’s be honest, a majority of users only put their best photos and highlighting experiences on social media. When they are lying in bed, with their makeup off and hair up in a messy bun they are not posting their current state of being.
Instagram photos do not validate who you are. Your beauty is found in Christ. He made you to be beautiful, original, and something that nobody else is. If you continue to look at other people to find your value and beauty, you are not going to find it because you are not looking at who God made you to be. You are just looking at who God made someone else to be. Yes, He made them pretty special too. But He made you special in your own way. If He wanted to make you like the other girl you see on Instagram He wouldn’t need to because He already made one of her. Therefore, He decided to make one of you because He wanted you too.
Be you, with no regrets, no comparisons, and no doubt about it!
Remember girl, you too were made for “such a time as this”. Allow God to show you what that is by seeking His wisdom and plan for your life. You won’t regret it.
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xoxo, Jasmine Grace